Mozza's own success story

[Mozza]

I've finally met someone I want to hang on to. It's only been a month, so I'm not saying she's definitely Ms Mozza, but it's the first time since I started dating that I feel ready to commit to someone. I'm glad I dated before because I can tell the difference between wanting to be with anyone and wanting to be with her. It's the first time I feel I don't have to make any compromise: she's my type, she's interesting, she shows clear interest in me.

The main word I use to describe her is "balanced". She seems to have her life together and be comfortable in her own skin. It's reflected in all spheres of her life, and obviously in how she approaches our relationship. She sets the pace and takes her time. She doesn't need to be reassured all the time about how I feel, how she looks, etc. I tell her I like this or that about her and she'll say "Thank you!" Sometimes she'll agree that it's nice, that she likes it too. She's interested in me, she shows several signs, be it touching me or reaching out.

In fact, I'm a bit weirded out by it because with WW I had developed a pattern of going after needy girls with a problem. WW couldn't trust men and I was happy to be trustworthy. I could see why WW needed me. Now, GF is so balanced that I don't see the problem to which I'd be the solution. My IC says that "relationships are symptoms", meaning that they reflect our mental state. So if I found someone balanced, it's a pretty good sign. I'm making efforts not to let my demons tell me that she's too good for me, that she'll find someone better balanced, that she'll find me lacking, etc. I just take a deep breath and tell myself that she likes me, that all is good and to enjoy it while it happens.