Hi G. Lots of wise advice as usual. It really is I suppose you can accept what your being told or you can carry on clinging to the hope you W will change her mind. She might , that's a possibility but she also might not and let's look and see what she sees.
She fell out of love with you She had her reasons , right or wrong Now what's happened for her to fall back in love with you ?? Nothing. Your still G , still codependant and still hoping that W will change
I've posted before how it took years for your W to reach this point and IF W ever changes her mind it will proberbly take years as well
Your Ds attitude towards you is unbelievable and it's not my place to tell you how to parent your child. I will say my 20 year old son who is 6'2" and weighs 15 stone wouldn't dare speak to me in a tenth of that manner because I have boundaries with all the kids and if I do raise my voice then the kids know I'm serious We are parents and need to be seen as such
G , this is your life and all we want is for to accept what is and move forward for you As Vapo said , this is life changing for us all , none of us have a choice in that however we do have a choice in how we deal with it I'm 18 months in and I still snuggle but once I accepted what is I wasn't paralysed by fear of upsetting W anymore and did things for me Nice clothes , holiday , new car , etc
Saturday just gone W complimented me on my wardrobe I accepted it but it didn't effect me Today W broke down over a work issue as she was chatting to me trough my passenger window. , I got out , gave her a hug , validated her feelings and went back to work 9 months ago I would have stopped the car and posted on here to get feedback , now I realise it happened and nothing has changed
My whole point is G needs to really, really accept that W is done She's choosen her path and is heading down it regardless of G. Now maybe , in time she will have regrets and she will look at G to see if G is still the same , what will she see then ??
What she needs to see is G , movng forward with his life , enjoying his life and living his life and her seeing that then won't matter to G because he will be happy and living his life for himself
You deserve to be happy G , we all do Why not follow the advice and as painful as it is accept. On e other thing from my own life is I was on Dyalisis for 5 years not too long ago and I hated every second of it. Every day I would count my blessings for what I did have and not dwell on the Dyalisis It really helped
Just my humble opinion G. You come across as a good man and I want you to be happy. Accept and move forward
