Being patient with yourself is very important. I have not been in a relationship in 8 years until now. There are moments where I am not super crazy about myself in the relationship, but there are other moments in which I am kind of proud. Mostly for recognizing the moments I'm not super crazy about, lol.
I'm glad it went well with yours kids and new guy. My D8 has met this guy and I was beyond nervous. It went surprisingly well. Then we spent a weekend with him and his D6 which went great. Now all 4 of us our having our first vacation this weekend. When D8 is with me, she asks to go to his house. (which is 2 and a half hours away, so we don't just pop on over). She takes the phone from me and says hi to him.
My ex married his AP. She has been in my daughter's life since she was a baby. They will have been married 5 years this April. D8 does wish she got some daddy daughter time when she is with them, but it rarely happens. I think that should happen, even if it was me and ex still married. I think it's always important for kids to have one on one time with their parents.
Oh, and the first time D8 met my man friend, he stayed over, because he lives far which she was fine with. However, around 1pm the next day she was ready for him to leave, because she wanted some time alone with me to absorb everything. Completely normal. Although now, she would prefer him to be here all the time,lol.
