surrealism is not my style

[Zues126]

Wow, what a post C. Very powerful. From here it is pretty straight forward.

Think about what your 180s are based on your behavior in the M.
Make that your mission, to demonstrate those 180s in all you do in your life (not just for H)
If there are hang-ups that make doing those things difficult, there is no better time to grow than now.

I heard again how he made me miserable. I told him that I made me miserable, not him. He actually made me happy. His response? No! You didn't like me and I made you miserable. There is nothing wrong with you, we are too different. There is someone out there that will be perfect for you, but I'm not your guy. You don't like me. ..No, I don't always truly validate his feelings. It is difficult to do when he tells me how he thinks I feel about him as if it is a fact. It is also hard to do when he tells me I don't need to change...that I am a nice person.

This is so powerful. You later pick this up, but he is not, actually, telling you how you feel as fact. He is telling you how HE feels. HE FEELS that he was insufficient to make you happy because he never felt you express your happiness to him. HE FEELS you don't need to change because he doesn't care anymore, or because he gives up and accepts that it's him with the problems but either way he doesn't like it anymore. Those feelings you can validate.

Great post C. I will read again later. Pretty profound stuff.