That's because there is no right answer. You have to assess your situation. You know your spouse better than anyone here. These sites are for guidance and suggestions on what to do but they're not gospel. I did the passive supportive thing for over a year. It didn't work. Then I gave up, rediscovered my manhood, and put my foot down. I said I don't need this. I have too much respect for myself to be treated like this. I'm taking myself out of the competition for you. Go be with your cheater. I'm done. Then I filed for divorce. It worked. It snapped her out of her MLC fog in a nanosecond. Then she became the pursuer and I became the pursued. Check my signature. We're still together. No more drama. No more MLC. You're too good to put up with this. It's not a macho thing at all. It's a self-worth, self-respect thing. She'll never respect you as a husband if you dontb respect yourself first. Nobody ever respects a doormat.
