Okay, help me understand clearly here. Are the two of you attending marriage counseling together, or each of you seeing individual counselors?
Did you know about transparency plans and present it to your W, or is this something she volunteered to do?
Do both of agree that you are piecing the marriage back together, or does she say she'll try and see how things go?
How soon till she goes to see her grandfather?
I had to go back to review some, b/c I was thinking she had been working on the M longer, but I noticed she has been in NC for only four weeks. That is usually the hardest time. If she breaks her NC, she'll have to start all over again.
You might want to get Squiggy's advice about how to handle this situation.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
