She’d had an affair, and instead of pushing her away, he said, “It’s okay; I still forgive you and love you and want you.”
To a wayward wife, this represents weakness. It also shows her that she can treat him as though he was not valuable, yet he would still be there loving and forgiving her. That does not work with a WW.
Neither do I agree with this:
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What your wife WANTS you to do is get frustrated.
She wants you to get weak.
She wants you to give her any reason to stick with her decision to leave.
So, you need to ignore the revolt. Don’t let it affect you.
Don’t give her what she wants, which is for you to start pushing away from the marriage.
What the writer of that newsletter seems to be missing is that a WW simply doesn't care. She's not going to give her H enough thought to want anything from him except her freedom.
Some things the H does need to ignore, but it upsets me for writers to imply that a man says it is okay for his W to have an A and that he will ignore her bad behavior and just continue loving and forgiving her........even when she doesn't want it.
How is a man suppose to have self-respect when he just rolls over and says, "It's okay, honey, I'll keep loving you".
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
