One of the consequences to walking out and leaving the children with the H, is not knowing the details from day to day of their lives.
You need to adapt to the 7 status of your M, which is separation. IMHO, this is not what I would see as a friendly separation b/c you do not support it Ssv and it was not on mutual grounds(. Therefore, I would not be sending photos taken with the phone, org frn tell what new activity they are involved in during the week, or where they may have gone over the evfvtt vtv tv ngnng ftb g trvn weekend, or how you care for them. It is not your responsibility to work at keeping the children in her life. It is her responsibility, and since she chose, to Ht By leave, she has to get it the best way she can. . T rv cv This may sound mean spirited to you, but that is not my intentions here. The WW learns from consequences and losses. If you are supplying or enabling, then she will continue in her wayward state. She may anyway, but for sure, she will if you don't back out of her life and allow her to sink in her own fantasy.
She has to play this out and see it doesn't bring her the happiness she thought it would. She has to see what she's done to those she loved the most. She has to find her way out of the fog. You have to play hardball. Get a shark lawyer and keep your kids. Don't try to help her, fix her, or do something you think may cause her to miss the family. None of that stuff works. Only time and consequences gets through to the wayward wife. The more spoiled........the more wayward. The more wayward.......the more consequences and time it will take.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
