Hi Ghost, have a look at the latest post by U-turn on his thread. He is further down the road than you and there may be some wisdom for you in there.

Take care xx

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus