When the goal is positivity

[JulieH]

Zues

"There is no way he'd be having this conversation if the idea of R wasn't there"

My husband actually said that a few talks ago.

When you said that courts make my husband feel vulnerable and powerless you are absolutely right. Because he expresses it with anger it is hard for me to see that. In the area that we live in, there is no way either of us will financially have a decent quality of life with divorce. We couldn't even do it together.

Husband is well aware of this and has to feel hopeless about our marriage for him to get to this point. I understand this but disagree. I resent that husband gave up but you are right. I will promise not to take action without discussion and warning and reflection.

Zues, why do you doubt that husband is in affair? Most say the signs are there. (Although my closest friend does say anyone else, yes with your husband I'm really not sure. She doesn't know about upcoming trip though)