When the goal is positivity

[JulieH]

Jellyb, we are horrible at communicating with each other. And we both interpret things so differently. Husband actually said he wanted to record or put things in writing because of that.

I agree with you though. I don't want reconciliation to be about negotiations and terms. That's kind of a doomed way to go about this. Reconcilation should not be about having demands met.

It should be about connecting and validating.

Our marriage counselor tried to get us to do "dialogues" it never worked when we were emotionally charged because we just resorted to our old ways.