She's cheating on you and your response is to go all passive and kiss her butt? You don't have a chance unless you man up and put your house in order. Don't tolerate this level of disrespect. Who's this OM? Where is he? Is he married? You need to get him out of your marriage right now. You're not fighting for your wife but he is. She respects him but since you're acting so weak she has zero respect for you. Man up. 180. Be king of your own castle. Stick with this passive approach and she's gone for good. Nobody respects a doormat.
Thank you for your advice, I will stick to the advice of the divorce busting coach. Have you ever thought what "Man Up" really means? Man Up is when a man takes responsibility for his actions. When he has the ability to forgive. I could be all "Macho" man up and kick her out but I also created the scenario that drove her to the EA, I'm not saying it's my fault as everyone has a choice. What I'm saying is The 180 approach is not to be taking lightly, you need to weight the cons and the pros, what might work for sum might not work for others. I try it and was not working making it worse, instead understanding what cause the issue in the first place allowed me to understand her better and communication btw her and me open up. When have been able to communicate better now that we have ever in our 15yrs together. Everyone is different and you have to open your eyes to understand and determine the best path. But the most important objective is to ask God for guidance and help.
