Is your LL acts of service? Before I had read that book and realized my H's LL was acts of service, it would not make me very happy whenever he did something that would ordinarily be considered my job. I had a negative attitude about it. I thought he either didn't think I was going to get around to doing it myself, or that he had an ulterior motive.

If your W still has a wayward heart, I don't believe she is going to welcome these acts of service the way she should. If anything, it will add lighter fluid to the charcoal. You say you do these things b/c you love her. Why can't you do other things b/c you love her? Why do you believe that doing servant-like jobs for her will attract her to you? Part of those jobs could be considered as doing it for the family (vacuuming, etc.), however, making her bed and cleaning her bathroom? Really? What was your true motive for doing it for her? Guilt, perhaps? I think, at the moment, to say you are doing these jobs for her just b/c you love her.....is kind of a cop out. No, you weren't trying to impress her, but you definitely were trying to give her a message.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!