Tyler, I'm glad the urge passed for the time being. WHEN it comes back, resist again! I talked to a family member of my H a couple of times. I know that this family member knows what's going on and doesn't approve. Even told me one time "I'm really sorry this is happening to you." HOWEVER, I also found out that the family member was lying to me and telling H that I was contacting them. Now, I KNOW that this family member wants to tell me what's going on and does not approve. But, I also know that blood is thicker than water and no matter what, they are going to stand with their family and not with you. I was very sad when I realized that what this person was telling me was not true. I really didn't think they would blatantly lie to me to protect him. I didn't call this person out on their lies, I just texted and thanked them for "trying to help me" and then apologized for putting them in the middle and promised it would never happen again. They don't know that I know they were lying. I tried to take the high road and let them think I appreciated the LIES they were telling me but felt bad about putting them in the middle. In all honesty, I REALLY DID feel bad about asking anything anyway. And, I won't ever do it again. Please don't do this. It makes you feel bad and you won't ever know if they are being honest.
This is more or less exactly what happened with me as well. Right after BD, I was talking to WW's best friend. The best friend told WW (obviously) and WW lost her mind a bit. I wasn't upset at WW for getting mad... I was upset with myself for sticking her friend in a very tough spot. I want to contact the best friend bad because I have no idea where WW's head is at... but I know I cannot.
