KGirl - new life, new stuff

[Maybell]

I almost want to give you some tough love, K. Remind you that this is a learning experience and the right guy is out there for you. Suggest that perhaps getting dumped by XBF is as much about the rejection you felt from your XH? And remind you to set your sights FORWARD.

That said, it's true that when you've been partnered for as long as you were prior to your marriage and during it that it can be hard to remember that things are worthwhile when you're on your own, too. You did so well last year pulling yourself together, getting the cat, the car, etc. What if you set some kind of goal for yourself, like a bucket list item, and enlist another single friend to join you in it?

You've got to feel what you feel, but you've got to have a path forward, too. It's up to you to forge that path.

WRT to the emails and texts, I would say... they mean nothing. They're just words. He's not trying to get back with you, he just wants to be friendly. Nobody likes knowing they've left destruction in their wake, especially when the failure of the relationship is their own fault.

I am sending you warm thoughts and hugs, my dear. Grieve like you need to and then be MIGHTY.