Man up and tell her that infidelity is 100% unacceptable and WILL NOT be tolerated. You also need to know where you stand so talk to a divorce lawyer right away. If you can afford it then do initial consultations with several of,the top defense lawyers in your area. If you do that then your wife wouldn't be allowed to use them. Be the leader of your house. While you stay passive and afraid to confront, this creepy snake OM is pulling her further away telling her everything she wants to hear.
