WW hope to reconcile

[J5K]

Thank you Squiggy, Jelly, and Sandi,

I will do my 180s for my boys. Although the things my W says are somewhat logical and can be seen from a different point of view, it does not excuse her choosing to stay at her parents as the right thing to do.

Jelly,

Yes, maybe the best thing is for me to move there with my boys after trial and I have custody. She may file in Toronto afterwards but I may have to take that risk.

Sandi,

Yes, I was shaking in my shoes when she said that she was detaching. That really scared me and I am sure based on other things she said that she would drop the boys off with me to go and have her fun. I don't trust anything she says anymore. As far as OMs go, I would prefer not to know about any of them or the details of her activities with them even though she says she is just friends. I definitely don't want to teach my boys that it is ok to run away from your problems and not face them head on.

Yes I filed and I will take the heat for that. She does not like that I am controlling but I guess she needs to figure out what kind of man she wants. I am taking charge now and that is what she wanted me to do in the past.

DB coach said WAWs want a vibrant life. Well I will do that with my boys and GAL, just not with her. Maybe she will wake up some day and see that and want to come back. Until then, I need to do what is best for me and the boys.

Thank you all again. She tried calling 3 times this morning but I didn't hear my phone ring. NC is the way to go. Unless she send me a text to speak with the boys, not going to interact with her at all.