"This is what I see -shame that your father abused the things you loved, your mum, dog and family -shame that your father did this publicly (in front of friends) he saw as an extension of you -shame that you could not stop it -shame that your father was unloving and uncaring -shame that your father's public persona hid his real self -shame your mother was abused and soldiered on
There are more that you can identify?" No, that pretty much covers it
"This tactic has worked well for me and I read that challenging your dad or Mum in this way works for FOO. I was going to ask you if your experience of Schema has done any release work?" We're not quite there yet but she talked about connecting with it. We've identified the prime suspects as Abandonment, Subjugation, Emotional Deprivation and Defectiveness / Shame. Of the four schema's the first two are the most significant to me and my experience.
I'm sorry V if the information you seek does not flow out of me easily. I am not being tight lipped, withholding, or resisting. For the about last two weeks I have lost my drive or motivation to post. More accurately I am not inspired to post. I enjoy posting here more then my own thread. I think part of it is that the friends I've made here, your one of course, are all disappearing. I know that's a logical conclusion to a site like this yet I miss them. We shared something beautiful while we were in such pain. I know that this is the way life is and that one can not hold onto such moments. People come into your life and they leave. The trick is to appreciate them while their with you. That goes for my wife and that goes for you. Thank you V for all you do. I truly appreciate the time you spend trying to help me on my journey. I am very happy to have you in my life. Be well Vanilla
