you do not know me. I binge read your whole thread yesterday and all I can say WOW. There are a lot of similarities between you and I, the ages are the same, together time same, kids' age same, the only 2 difs are I have a D age 7 and the second is my BD was June 2014, so 1 year before you.
I'd say that for the time frame from BD, you are doing great. In-house S must be hell, if my W was an in-house, there would most likely be a homicide somewhere in the story. It is good you showed her some balls re: MBR.
I see you are struggling, but that is perfectly normal. You have to let your W go from your thoughts and let her find her way.
It is good you showed her some balls re: MBR. 