Frustrated with Husband's Ambivalence

[Roxi]

We have been separated 5 months. H swings from "if we divorce, let's not go to war" to "please don't see any lawyers yet." He had an affair for over a year. When I found out, told me we didn't have to rush to divorce. He met up with the OW a month later and I was ready to file, but he talked me out of it. I have been working on detachment, and have a DB coach but his indecisiveness is driving me nuts. He's in IC but won't commit to MC. We went out to eat for the first time twice last week , but he will not commit to anything else. Limbo land is killing me

Me: 50 H: 50
M: 25 T: 29
D21 S 17
BD: 9-11-15