Need help. Threading water, must learn to swim.

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Thanks sandi2. I hear what you're saying. I haven't misinterpreted it. My head tells me she still wants out of the M and me out of the house. I'm getting better at doing my own thing and showing indifference to her while still being nice. It certainly makes living together better and it's better for D3 when we don't fight.

At some point I believe I will need to leave. I just don't see her dumping the om without that. At same time, I can see that her having to see me daily is eating her up. Her physical, mental and emotional health have significantly deteriorated over the past 4 months. Of course she blames me, even goes so far as to say I'm making her sick and that it is my intention to make her sick. The reason she is so unhealthy is that she is stressed because her conscience is eating her alive. Dump the chump, return to work on the M and her health would begin to return but she won't see the solution. Easier to blame me.

I will say that most of the day with her went well. Although I thought we were going to see Disney on Ice, we saw Beauty and the Beast. Liked it much better than the cartoon. I was nice but certainly not clingy. Towards the end of our day together, she asked if there was something I wanted to say. Although there was (she thinks I'll watch D3 if she has to teach a night class, no chance), I said nope and redirected conversation.