IP to do that I went to extreme measure. After I had that physical fight and we discuss our M for the first time in IDK how many months, and told him I loved him and wanted to R, I didn't get anything from STBXH, so I went dark. I didn't see him physically for a month. Only today was the first time I saw him, and you know what I still love him, so I'm not fully detached. I knew I felt better not seeing him, so now I'm stuck as I don't know what to do. Maybe do what I did drop the kids to his place and luck them up later.
Sorry for not being anymore helpful. It'd nice to meet up one day :-). Take care xx