Oh, buttercup. Besides the fact that you are referencing a favorite movie of my family's, you have written exactly my situation.
I too have dropped the rope. My H had been having an EA with a married woman from his office and everyone (office, her H, their-formally our-friends)just seems ok with it. Now that we are separated and H has filed for D, he acts as "Uncle H" to her family and they include him in activities. I am hardly on the radar.
H is acting like he is such a nice guy, so concerned with taking care of me, but its more like a way to appear like a nice guy while getting what he wants. Nice would have been communicating how he felt in such a way that we weren't in this situation. Not letting someone else into our R and triangulating. I played my part in our problems, but I have been making an effort at changing myself. He just gave up on the M.
Anyway, this
I've dropped the rope. I am letting him go. I was able to get catharsis with an intense interaction yesterday and I realized: I'm right in the middle of this situation, in limbo, and I will not stay on his road. I'm on my own. And surprisingly, I am discovering I am having some compassion for the place he finds himself. It doesn't make me hurt any less, it doesn't make me want to divorce, it makes me see his hurting and wonder if he will ever realize that we have something worth keeping. He may never realize this. But I realize that. I've done everything I can to hold this M together. I am strong and true to my values. I can hold my head up and present the best example of an independent woman to my daughter. And hopefully, I'll be able to sleep at night soon. wink
is true for me as well. I'm with you on this journey. Love your words of strength.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
