When the goal is positivity

[shreeve]

Might take me a couple months Zues, but I feel like I do need to get to that point: "My point is at some point he gives up, and either walks away physically, or emotionally withdraws because he doesn't want to be emotionally beaten anymore." I know I have to be patient and it will take forever, but I do see that in my future.

Julie have you tried that thought blocking stuff? My IC gave me a lot of cool pointers about it to redirect negative thoughts / anger. Works for me some of the time.