Husband has left me for a younger woman

[Bex]

Bex - You have to take your focus off OW and H and put it on yourself.

Dont look at her photos again, dont think about her, if it wasnt her it would probably be another woman.

Whenever a wave of emotion comes crashing over you, think exactly that, its a wave, your in the ocean, the wave crashes, it goes past, and your still ok, your feet are grounded and you can breathe.

It sounds naff but it works. My WAW sent a solicitors letter to me last week, giving her intention to seek D - but im lucky I don't have OM in the picture. For 3 months I suspected an EA and was paranoid about her whereabouts, whenever she was late home, whenever she went out with the girls and didnt put FB selfies up - my mind went into overdrive.

Now I just shut it out and turn the focus on me - what will I do in the next 3 hours, the next day, the next week - I make lists, lots of them and tick off the jobs I am doing or have done.

Lists about work, lists about stuff to do at home, plans for holidays with the kids without W.

You are a single parent now - hard to swallow but true - for now.

Tell me what you are doing for you? Half Term?, Easter? - make plans for you and the kids.Visiting family, playing with the kids, rekindling old friendships? You can drive? Yes

Tell us about you

and Check the Single Parent Travel Club on FB.

So sorry that your wife wants a divorce, that day would be very very upsetting for you- are you alright? Will you just sign the papers? Bless you- sending you big hugs.

Yes it is like a wave isn't it? I'm over that now, it just hurts like hell knowing he's with her, it's just the ultimate betrayal and so so painful to be on the receiving end of! He just treats me like some sort of business acquaintance at best as if I never meant anything to him- hasn't even apologised at all to me. It's just awful.

But yes I'm finally starting to accept that I am a single parent and I am enjoying my time with the kids and totally appreciate what I've got and what he's chosen to miss out on- these times are so special with the kids as they're so young, thanks for the single parent face book tip, I'll check it out.