2016 a New Year - getting out of my own fog

[BrightFuture]

Irish, you mentioned that your W had a narcissistic mother. I just recently started reading about daughters of narcissistic mothers. I think my mother has a lot of trends. And I adopted some specific behaviors from growing up with this kind of mother. When I look back now, I think I behaved like a narcissist myself sometimes. I didn’t give my son the emotional support he needed because I was too concentrated on my own feelings and on my problems. I also didn’t know what it would be like to be there for your child emotionally. I came a long way during these last few years. I realize now that I do not have narcissistic tendencies, and my certain behavior was a product of growing up with my mother.

And even then, I cannot not imagine abandoning my son and then blaming him for not wanting to communicate with me. I do hope that your W will work through her childhood issues and will be able to repair her relationship with her daughters.

I am so happy to hear that the therapist said that your Ds are fine. Not surprising, as they have a very strong support in you. Yes, they will get angry and sad some times, but it seems like they can process these feelings in a healthy way and still enjoy their lives and be the kids.

Have fun at the safari!