Ghostbusting Round 5 Detaching my feelings

[ATPeace]

One of the issues is that about six months ago my daughter asked if her boyfriend could stay over my wife and I had a discussion and my wife said that if she was going to sleep with him then it would be safer if she was in our house rather than in a car or at friends house where if things got out of hand at least we would be arround to sort things out so my W does not have a problem with him sleeping over ....I guess when my W was a similar,age my parents used to let her sleep over at my parents house

I generally do not have a massive issue with him staying as I want my daughter to be safe and if she is going to do it she will find a way ....but as an example I gave my daughter and her boyfriend I left home to his house and on and on the way my daughter was asking me if her boyfriend could stay over on Saturday night I said no she went on to say the only reason I was not letting him stay was because she was sleeping with someone and I am not....and that I am jealous.....bearing in mind the boyfriend was in the back of the car I did not stop and ask him how he felt during the conversation he may have been embarrassed I don't know....

Would,I,be,wrong to tell her that she will be babysitting and if she does not then she can forget any chance on him staying again....I guess come down on her tougher

See I worry a lot about upsetting the apple cart upsetting the situation so want to bend over backwards to accommodate my W and my daughter

Thank you I really do not have anyone I can refer with I used to always run things like this past my wife

Thank you

Ghost