And I know well how much it is difficult to look for all this information, L, what is mine and what is his. It breaks our hearts to go through the process, but it is well worth it. You now know your rights and know that he can't come with a piece of paper and tell you bananas, so you can sign whatever and hurt yourself financially.
MY XH tried. I listened to all his blah, blah, blah. He has all D papers ready for me to sign at a café. I asked him in a very calm way if this was what he decided for the D and he said that that was our best shot, that he was looking into leaving me in a good place to start. I then told him that I would consult with my L and get back to him. He was crazy, his voice got louder. I then stood up and said that if he would talk to me like that, that I would leave. He tried to convince me again, but I had made my mind and knew my rights.
Too bad for him underestimating me.
That's the same with your H, telling you that he will have the house for himself and you need to walk. He is not thinking straight, he does not care about his family right now. Maybe things will turn around and he will be normal again. But if not, you have your weapons in place.
Excellent that you want to keep it a secret. In any way he can find out that you have all this info or he will also play his cards. And the subject is money, people change, they go for the throat.
I did not say it in a bad way about the T-shirt. It is just that you need to concentrate on you and do not allow yourself to be too mellow right now. But it seems you are doing a good job.
Red, all what you are doing will also start changing you. With time you will change so much for a better you, a glowing you that he will see the changes and will start thinking about his own decisions. We don't know how long it will last, but eventually he will notice.
Now, he thinks you are weird, act weird. With time he will see you are not siting around feeling sorry for yourself. And like our lovely squiggy said... It's attractive.
All what I can say is that you are amazing, you are protecting yourself and your kiddos... great job!
You also have good plans for your life, your future, what is excellent. Even if you two decide to reconcile, you have only victories because you are developing a career.
Just curiosity: Who pays the phone bills? Can he trace your phone calls?
