Actually, I just remembered a suggestion from DB coach. (She had listened to probably the same rants I post on here) She said make a list of everything positive husband does. I did this in beginning and then stopped because it was really being done as temp checking. Now it will be done so I can empathize.
Anyway this weekend him and mother went to warm sunny place to visit family. I am 99.9% positive MIL would have wanted to bring boys. Anyone who has kept up with my sitch woukd obviously know how devastating this would be to me. I would be so anxious to have others look after them when I am not around. I would literally be sick. It would have been a battle and tons of friction. Husband did not even ask and he is their father so he would have been justified to do so. I am actually hoping to take boys to Missouri in future and would never expect husband to give me a hard time. So I know I Am actually the one that is difficult. (Although no one watches them closer then I do)
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.