Hi Pink, sorry you've been having a tough day. I see Job has advised wisely already. And I also feel that your H is trying to make amends in some way. Or he wishes to make himself feel better by offering help - I don't know.

If you are feeling so upset about things, just have minimal engagement with him. I think there is a boundary issue here though. Perhaps it will be a good idea to think about the level and type of contact you want with him going forwards, and when you are clear about that, just let him know. For example, if he always comes through you to arrange things with the kids, let him know to contact them direct - and so on.

Who knows where he is going with all of this - my main concern is you, and that you survive and thrive. If that happens, I'm happy! What you said about getting texts resonated with me. There was a time I checked my emails hoping for something - now I'm pretty pleased if all is quiet.

Take care Sweetie xx

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Me 48 H 46
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus