Figured it's time to pop in and give everyone an update.

So...it's been almost a year since my WW moved out of our home. At the time I was crushed, I was sick with cancer, terrified about my future and the one person whom I thought would be there forever couldn't have cared less. Thanks to this forum, the books and especially Sandi's list, I am doing great. "Galing" saved my life, I can't stress that enough. I beat cancer, I moved out of our home (it closes next week), I have been dating an amazing woman for the last few months, I have gone from a lonely caterpillar and turned into a butterfly.

My kids are doing well, my health has never been better and some of my new hobbies have brought out a passion in me that has never been seen before. I enjoy life again, I find beauty in almost everything and frankly, due to the last year, I take nothing for granted in life.

My WW has been a complete basket case. She has a BF and it appears that she is happy, but according to her friends/family she is miserable. She hates my gf, she hates that my family has shut her out, she hates that most of "our" friends want little to do with her. She is jealous, my MIL called me last week and asked me what my WW would have to do to "fix" our M. I told her that I am open to discussion, BUT I am not going to go out of my way to allow it to happen. That she would have to put the effort in, that she would have to do all the work, because I did it for months with zero effort by her. She followed with that she was sad that I had finally given up on the M. That she knew it would happen at some point, but she was still sad that it finally happened.

So, to my newbies and oldies here. You can do this. You can survive. I know it's horrible, I know it's hard and it's probably the biggest battle you have ever had to fight. But fight, fight like your life depends on it. Fight for your future, fight for your kids, just FIGHT!


Me: 38
W: 32
S10 D6
T: 10 (02/2004)
M: 7 (12/2007)
Separation 02/2015
OM confirmed 01/2015,
D mentioned 12/2014
D finalized 9/2016