Heal from the physiology up, that means nutrition. Hence Pinks suggestion of chicken soup.
2- I will try to get more sleep, I am always waking up but I will try to sleep more.
Rest as well as sleep.
3- Yes I have been exercising.
Great news.
4- I need to get back into my faith I was doing good then got depressed and now need to get back into it.
Consider mindfulness and guided meditation as well. There is much free stuff on the Internet and u tube.
5- I have 1 friend I can talk to. Everyone else pretty much has said a-divorce him or dont talk to me about him or b- just don't want to hear about my issues so I mostly just tell me one best best friend who will support me no matter what.
This is where GAL and new friends are so important. New friends will consider your views as they don't know WH.
6- I am trying to read more, I got a bunch of books on my kindle to read about it.
The word try is always a set up excuse for failure. I really dislike that word.
7- Lawyers not yet. I have to try to find time. It is very hard for me. I don't have anyone to watch the kids unless its my WAH and next week I have classes all week when he will be watching them. My mom said she would watch them on Wednesday afternoons so I could start going. I haven't seen a single one yet though.
There is that word try again!
You can start with telephone interviews. My L has a creche assistant on one day of the week.
The house when he wanted to separate he said he was keeping because he bought it before we were married and my name isn't on it.
No sweetheart in most jurisdictions at minimum you are entitled to half of the increase in value since you became M. That's what being M entails, for instance: with all my worldly goods I thee endow!
I wouldn't want to take it from him either, he saved and paid for everything himself when we were 21.
The homemaker has a significant contribution to make when a home is purchased and used during an M. An equal contribution to the asset by building and making a home. You and your child have the need for a home. Your WH has the responsibility to provide for this until you are able to work. The homemaker also puts their career on hold and will suffer a reduced income need.
He worked so hard to be able to get the house for us, that I wouldn't hurt him by taking it, even though I would have to move into 1 room with both my kids and he would get the big house.
This is why you need an L. One who is practical, as a mother with vulnerable children you deserve protection.look after your interests and those of your children. Imagine being in one room with TEENAGERS! Please seek advice.
My car is paid off. I don't think I would get alimony only being married for 4 years. I am not sure about any legal things but I'm making my list to ask the lawyers.
Absolutely you will get it. Seek L advice this is very urgent indeed.
8- Therapy on my insurance has 40$ co-pay which I'm not sure if he would pay for, and I don't feel right asking my parents to keep paying for all my stuff so idk how that will work =/
Ask.
9-I will try not to despair. I will try.
That word try again.
I know I need to prepare for a real battle.I know I need to get my stuff together. I know I need to see lawyers. I just seem to be having a hard time actually doing it.
Firstly is their a divorce club around in your area? If so ring the organiser and ask if there are child friendly L's in your area.
Also when you go looking ask if friends have experience and what they thought of their L. Ring the L explain you have small children, can they accommodate? I run an accounting practice and we have a play area for kids. We provide facilities. Family L will do the same.
I wish I had more friends that were willing to babysit my kids so I could try to go see a few L's just for advice besides always asking my mom who only has 1 day off a week.
These are excuses and it is my view that your resistance isn't doing you any favours. You get one shot at your D and it is an expensive mistake to nice it with your WH. Your WH is seeing himself as dominant and he will get that which he wants. If it helps think of an OW in your home persuading your WH his first family have no needs or wants.
Look after the needs of your children, financial, schooling and health.
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I know this is tough for you to do. It is responsibility and taking care of your future and your children.
It is in my view your responsibility as the more stable parent. At present you are a vulnerable mother of small children. Your L will help secure your future safety and that of your children.
Do not leave your home or assume that your WH has full rights. It isn't the length of your M, the courts will consider the needs of your children.
Where your emotions and R are concerned then it is my belief that you have many choices. In this my sweetheart the choice is advice.
I am very strong on it.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
