When you finally came out of it did you realize how much you did love your husband or did that take time to figure out?
I'm prepared to wait as long as it takes, but it would be nice to know I might eventually get someone back that loves me and sees the good in me.
Since there aren't many WW's around here, I will respond to your question. Once I felt remorse for what I had done to my H, then my other feelings for him started to come back. I just had so many years of resentment that that blocked the remorse, and the lack of remorse blocked the loving feelings for him.
Yes, it took time. Too much time, I'm ashamed to say. If he had not been the good natured man that he is, he probably would have given up on me. Plus, you have to realize that I was getting help from the board, too. Not very many waywards come to the DB board. I don't know where I'd be, if not for the people who helped me.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
