Good point on walking away from an unproductive argument. We really aren't arguing though. It's been very peaceful. I haven't been angry and when I have been I have controlled it. I get more anxiety than anything.. fearing reconnection with OM.
I have lots of strengths but patience is not one of them. It's a new skill I'm hoping to learn quickly.
I have been backing off a lot and she has acknowledged it. I just could use specifics on what that looks like. With things heading in the right direction I don't want to screw it up.
Also... I'm waiting... I'm being patient... but will there ever be a point where we can talk about some issues or concerns I have... I feel like... she needs space... Great... here you go. I have some needs too... like not being at the bottom of the priority list.
When can we talk about what mature love is and looks like and how marriage takes work and a choice every day to love the other person. Part of me feels like I'm stuck in the same boat... catering to her needs. I guess I'll leave that for couples counseling.
