Thank you everyone for your thoughts and insights. Cristy, s14 hasn't talked about it until last night. Here is a couple of stories that s14 told me that "built up" to his threatening om this past Sunday night:
- om asked s14 if he would like to go to the batting cages - at the same time as my Father/s14's Papa's funeral;
- as soon as s14 went back to W/om's place after he just saw his grandfather pass away before his own eyes, the first thing om said was "I'm really sorry your grandfather passed away. Let's play 'Call of Duty' and I will "kill" you.
I see how these mean, or at a minimum stupidly thoughtless words by om could start s14's emotions to want to hurt him. When I asked s14 last night what was the 'final straw' on Sunday night, he just bowed his head for 5 minutes, and he stayed silent.
I told s14 he cannot pick up a knife and threaten om. Never. Ever. I said I don't want to lose him and have him taken away to 'juvee'.
Then s14 offered me some jelly beans, that he picked up with his friends as they hung out at a mall last night. The box of jelly beans had some delicious flavors like 'dirty diaper' and 'dog's vomit'. As we chewed on a few of these jelly beans we groaned at the flavors, spit a few out, and chuckled together. It lifted the emotional talk.
