I will state my intention to separate and ask W to co-operate by putting the D on hold. The intention to separate is without prejudice - in other words, not binding, I can change my mind based on her decision. This will happen verbally this weekend.
My L knows her L (small city!) and reckons W's L is more adversarial hence the very harsh particulars in the UB letter.For instance mediation was never mentioned and my L reckons we are prime candidates for mediation and the Collaborative Law process - we still get on!
So my L's letter to her L will arrive stating that i would like her to agree to put D on hold whilst we separate but the separation clock starts from last October (in house separation) and W would be free to file from Oct 17 under no fault divorce.
If no agreement, then I will reject the particulars and stay in the house. I think she will agree - but we will see.
PS the friend I went cycling with last night separated from his W 5 years ago and still isn't divorced. Neither party have filed - and they DONT get on! There was no OM/OW although he met someone 1 year after separation and now lives with her.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
