Dread Pirate Roberts

[TimR]

Hello to you both. Like both you I have also caught my WAW cheating. Found out where the OM I suspected lives and drove down there. In order to keep out of jail I took a picture of her car there and then drove away. After a couple miles down the road I pulled over and text it to her. She then called and denied. I did the usual begging, pleading, anger etc.

I do not have much to offer as far as insight, but can express my most sincere sympathies to you both. While people often say I know what you are going through, this is one time it is true and it is the worst pain imaginable.

Beside that all I can tell you is what I have thought of doing. First off, I am going to wait until I talk to my telephone coach today and lay this out for him. I am going to withdraw and distance myself from her. I am going to detach, sometimes I am sure it will be a warm detachment but I am certain during other times when she tries talking it will be hostile. What I mean is I have been taking all the blame for pushing her away but I am not going to accept all the blame anymore. If she comes back it was meant to be if not it was not, but I cannot continue to beat myself up thinking and expressing everything wrong in our marriage was my fault. If she wants a divorce she can pay someone to draft the papers. I already drafted them myself but as others have said why make it any easier on her.