Things are going pretty well right now. Lots of positive and she seems to be slowly coming around. She seems happier with the kids and more positive with me. Maybe it's fake at times, but that's okay knowing she is trying to be positive.
I am backing off on several things... but do I try to goals part of the DR program or wait? She might be open to them. She might not. Here are my goals... let me know what you think? 1. Write me a letter... of any kid, apology, complaint, feelings about us, thoughts on the future, things you like and dislike about us, a plan for moving forward... just put some thoughts in writing for me.
2. Participate in a family activity 2 times a week. Playing games, going skiing, an art project, reading a book...
3. Pray with me once in a while... nit every night but once in a while (we are not holy roller type so this will be awkward to start, but we both were raised going to church and both feel God has to be a bigger part of our life moving forward)
Thoughts on those goals?
Also, I started the 40 day love dare and I am on day 15... Do I stop doing that... I love the readings and wish she could read them too. I will continue to read it at the very least. But should I keep doing the dares... or maybe keep doing the dares unless they seem like they would be too pushy for her at this point?
Would it help her to read about WWS? Maybe I could get my pastor to give her info on it. Coming from me it would be bad. Would it help her to be aware of that?
I wish Sandi2 or others who have been through what she has could talk to her and offer her help from personal experience. She is almost insisting on getting through this on her own.
