I guess I just don't understand your apologizing for looking at the phone. Didn't she agree to allow you access a few weeks ago?
So you look at the phone and she immediately goes off on you and threatens to contact the L and then you apologize for it?
Please don't let her control you with fear. Apologizing for doing something that was previously discussed because she got mad is not a good way to get respect back, IMO.
plus, if she has all of these scenarios where you are only allowed to look at the phone if certain criteria is met, that is not a transparency policy.
At that point, if it's me, I'm not even willing to say she's being transparent and would continue to detach and GAL.
Go over to the MLC section and pull up job's thread on "detachment" and look at it. If you have, look at it again.
IMO You are not piecing right now. W is fence sitting again... She's using the D stay the same way she used the other document...
Maybe I'm wrong. I hope I'm wrong and I'm reading the sitch wrong.
It just feels like right now you are stuck in that distancer/pursuer cycle: 1)You detach. 2)She dips her toe (i.e. let's see how things go) 3)You jump in with both feet. 4)she jumps out.
Doesn't this feel pretty close to how things went the last time when you were served? It does to me, I guess.
