Rysin, I remember watching you way back then. So glad to hear the turn around. Go so very slowly and remember the little birdie analogy. You do not want to scare her away. Not sharing the same room is a great example of taking it slow. 6 months was a long enough time for Mrs. Squiggy and I to feel a bit awkward sharing a bed. I can't imagine after a year.
MB is correct in that you need to have clearly defined conditions for her to return. Think about what your reasonable non-negotiables are and stick to them.
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Stages of Remorse:
I do think your wife is in one of the early stages of remorse, but there are several stages. They'll go from "I'm sorry I got caught," to "I'm sorry for ME that I've messed myself up so much," to "I'm sorry for YOU that I hurt you (but I still don't see anything wrong with what I did)," to finally a more self-aware "I'm sorry for what I did because IT WAS THE WRONG THING TO DO, on so many levels. For me, for the pain I caused my husband, for the breaking of my vows, etc."
I remember this from Starsky. Seems your wife is moving forward through them!
M: 8.5 T:10 Me:37 W:34 S:6
Retrouvaille and W moves back- 7/31/15 Piecing - 7/4/15 to present
