Julie, I must have missed the first part of your story, I didn't realize that you had those original 10 months of suck preceding the separation. I didn't find DB until 4 months into it, I was doing everything wrong up until then. So I am on a very similar timeline as you. BD, and then 10 months of living together in this awful way, he spent 3-4 months on the sofa but then moved back into bed but probably shouldn't have been in there. Now gone for 1 month so far, but it is "for work" so that kind of gives us a way to be separated without being separated. I also spent those 10 months packing lunches and making coffee and "serving" him.
A few times I thought my H was spewing intentionally so that I would kick him out, but I really don't think he was thinking of anything but his anger and his status as a "victim". This is the hardest thing. I can not believe I've lasted this long, but I know a lot of DB'ers have been at this even longer. I am disgusted too. Alternating with feeling very rejected.
I hope for you that the lack of anger in his voice is a change that will continue.
