Thank you for the advice DBB. I know for a fact that this is exactly what my wife is thinking. She keeps saying " I don't know who you are anymore", and all I can say is that I am finally finding out myself "who I am" and that I'm actually a pretty damned nice guy with lotsa love to give, I just didn't know how to do it before. I haven't told her this yet.
"Anyone who is among the living, has hope." (Eccl 9:4)