WW, My Addiction, Patience, and HOPE Part II

[JGuy]

The best I felt was when I was on my own, DB'ing with some separation, and working just on me. When my W interacts, and shows hints of old relationship, we get back to hidden expectations.

I think when she starts to really work at US things will get better. The struggle is now ME - how to continue to show love and respect, when I'm not shown that in return.

I totally relate to this, trumpet. It's exactly where I'm at right now too. Somehow, it appears that we are back in sync again.

I have been feeling a lot of anger around hidden expectations since Tuesday when my W said that he has chosen to go NC with the OM again. I really, really want to ask her about it. It's so hard to be patient and not apply pressure. I am trying to take a hard look at this tendency in myself and keep reminding myself that my W doesn't owe me anything. I just have to suck it up and give her tons of space. Hardest thing I have ever had to do...