WW, My Addiction, Patience, and HOPE Part II

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Thanks, Squiggy. You're in the aftermath of the storm, so I appreciate the advice.

I haven't contacted her. I won't.

The best I felt was when I was on my own, DB'ing with some separation, and working just on me. When my W interacts, and shows hints of old relationship, we get back to hidden expectations.

I think when she starts to really work at US things will get better. The struggle is now ME - how to continue to show love and respect, when I'm not shown that in return.

I have NO problems at work, and in my other relationships. I'm apt to think 'Am I like this with everyone?', but that's just not the case - I don't have BEST friends, but I make friends easily, and am able to put people at ease - I'm a salesperson! I'm good at it. That's why I went into sales.

How come I can fail so miserably with one person, the person I love the most? Is it that she's got her demons to face, and I'm just in the way right now?

I keep thinking back to the 3 months we have - it's getting in the way of just being 'me' and not worrying about the future. In 3 months, we have to decide to divorce, or reconcile. Doing NO work on the marriage, and just sitting around on my hands, makes it so, so difficult.

Would you recommend Retrouvaille, Squiggy?