RE MC: another session with both of us, and we re-hashed a recent argument. It was interesting, I guess productive, that my W highlighted how this arguments showed "aha there's the angry guy from before; I knew he'd come back". The interesting bit was that she started to see that it was different in the past, and that because she's done with me, she was perhaps projecting a lot of the past onto this, and to a degree making it self-fulfilling because she's been waiting / not believing I've changed... I also learned more about the pain she's built up over many many years in our R.
I learned I've got to get a better handle on dealing with behavioral criticism. This argument that we were re-hashing happened before my epiphany with DB Coach Chuck...
It was also interesting as the argument was around some household chores, and it came up that in some ways she didn't like that I was cutting into her areas of expertise. She made it clear she's fine with me continuing to help more - it was interesting to see its making her re-think her day to day activities around the house...
Outside of MC, things have been feeling like we're a couple of good friends living together, which isn't bad...
Started thinking about what to do about Valentine's day.
