Wife checked out (3)

[2ltl2lt]

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http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2626909#Post2626909

[2ltl2lt]

Thanks for the links.

I'm going to eat dinner at my moms tonight with my friend. She stayed in touch with my mom even after we were not together anymore but they haven't seen or heard from each other in many years. I'm sure it will be a hoot!

[trumpet]

I love that you spent time with someone else. It shows that you can exist without WW.

Is it easier to be lonely or to be living with a WW? Coin flip? At least when you're lonely you can find something to occupy your time, on your wish list, vs. having the wayward always hovering.

Will WW know you were with her? Is the plan to just keep it on the down-low?

[2ltl2lt]

I definitely don't regret spending time with her, she is a lot of fun and we shared so many old memories. I'm certainly not going to try to hide anything from anyone (other than the kids maybe), so I'm sure she will know eventually. If it sparks some jealousy or sense of loss WW may try to move closer to me but she will have a ton of work to do before we can even think about R. This was not my intention at all, it was a coincedence that we reconnected. Funny how things can turn out sometimes, WW knows her from back in the day. I actually split with this girl to be with WW. Go figure

[TxHubby]

Thanks for the links.

I'm going to eat dinner at my moms tonight with my friend. She stayed in touch with my mom even after we were not together anymore but they haven't seen or heard from each other in many years. I'm sure it will be a hoot!

Good stuff. Life is for the living. You're alive so get to living.

[2ltl2lt]

Thanks for stopping by TX and trumpet

We did have a blast last night. We grilled some huge porterhouse steaks and talked and laughed until late. My mom and my friend were right back at it like they had never lost touch. Good times.

[mutatio]

It sounds like life is okay at the moment. I hope your wife comes to her senses soon, I sure you kids miss you. Be well

[2ltl2lt]

Hey mu,

I'm a lucky man, I have the kids all week every week. I get to wake up and get them ready for school everyday and pick them up in the afternoons. It's just been here lately on the weekends that they have been doing separate things. It's dance competition season for D and she is out of town with WW most weekends and me and S do cubscout events usually. I haven't contacted WW for almost four weeks now. She sometimes texts me about the kids schedules or to talk to them in the morning, but I don't speak to her unless absolutely necessary. She is holding out longer than I ever thought she would. Take it easy.

[mutatio]

It seems the only strong connection between you and your wife right now is the children. How are they holding up? Have you given any thought to how long you'll live in limbo. I have my son's graduation as a finish line. When I get to that point I will have to fish or cut bait. It's easy now, survive but no hard decisions. Do you struggle with the choice?

[2ltl2lt]

I wish that were true, the truth is I still love her dearly and want to leave the possibility of R open. So far the kids have done well. They see us both everyday in some form or fasion. WW just hangs around until they get ready for bed then off she goes. I suppose I have already made the choice to not live in limbo, hence my recent interactions with my old girlfriend. I consider this a form of GAL with the gals. As far as I am concerned, as long as she doesn't pursue divorce neither will I. All of this mess was her decision and hers to clean up. I am not bitter about her choices anymore because I have realized that I can't decide what is right for her just as she can't decide what's right for me. As long as we both do right by the kids, us adults have to live with the choices we make.