Hey Trumpet - hope you're ok. I'm wondering about a few things and wanted to ask your perspective, if I may. The porn use has accelerated. It seems to be wearing on him (but I know, no mind reading). Did you ever get to a point where you knew something had to stop w/that? Or... other realizations? I know it took your wife's EA... but other moments along the way? Also, I think you've expressed that if your W was more interested in sex it would have helped. I keep wondering about that... to be really blunt, his self-'love' has him so exhausted and his head is so messed up any affection or initiation I show is ignored most of the time. I'm wondering about that... I even wonder that sex w/me at this point is more hurtful than good (but maybe that's good for his conscience...) AND conversely, it's so much more boring comparatively... I know all these things are *his* problems... it's still confusing for me. IOW, I'd like to, even if it is less than what it should be. But maybe that's exacerbating the problem...reinforcing the idea (his idea) that I'm just not good enough for him. Sigh.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
