Been trying to catch up on your situation...we both started this at around the same time.
My coach feels like it is time for me to initiate some family outings. She said this because the Minimal contact was only adding distance and we were not getting anywhere. I think she also sensed that I am losing committment to the process. I do understand our situations are different though.
Anyway, DB coach has been stressing that friendship is the necessary step. She advises for me to make friendship the goal. That with a friendship, he will be more committed and that it will "plant seeds of hope". Of course, it is also stressed that I need to avoid pursuing behaviors.
My response was, It is hard for me to want friendship with someone who has acted so selfishly. I don't feel like I am winning back this great prize of a human being. She remarked that "regardless of the outcome you guys are going to be friends because it is necessary for the children".
What has your coach advised?
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
