I can't believe how much of my time was spent thinking about this, but if nothing else it proves how attached I still am. Before dinner I told my wife that I thought the best plan for Valentine's was to do it as a family event with the kids, but did ask if she had a preference for restaurant.
I think my wife appreciated that I had thought it through and had an option that tried to take her into consideration (instead of just blasting ahead with "the usual" Valentine's day for us. It's sad that in the past I would have just asked her what she wanted to do and then agreed. Part of my continued growth is to make sure I have an opinion before I ask these types of questions and make sure that I express my opinions as part of the discussion (without seeming controlling or demanding).
Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12; S10 and S6 BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015 EA dissolved 12/2016
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou
