WAW - Marching to the D

[isittoolate]

Hi Is, I guess you could let your W know that your preference would be to S, with a view to D after 2 years if that is what you both want at that point. She may say yes and she may say no. I told my H I would prefer that, but he didn't want us to settle finances without D and he wasn't willing to wait, and chose to file on UB grounds

This is what I will probably do. But I will wait until after my meeting tomorrow with L. She comes highly recommended from a solicitor friend of mine - 'she's the best D lawyer I have ever worked with' and doesnt take any sh!t.

I would probably add that she is free to continue the D under Unreasonable Behaviour of course ....so why accumulate L fees in the meantime. It means that I will leave the family home in 2-6 weeks - which will break my heart - I have put lots of effort into refurbishing that house over 7 years.New kitchen, ensuite, bathroom, fireplace, windows, doors, etc etc. I know its only bricks and mortar but its still gut wrenching and the thought of any other man living in that house kills me.

OK, time to let the emotional wave wash over me.....like a surf breaking...there.... its done.